Valentine’s day is upon us yet again, and it’s quite possibly the most dreaded yet excitingly romantic occasion on the calendar. Firstly you panic over what to buy for your beau, reading between the lines into meanings behind cards, the extravagance of gifts and shaking your head at the overpriced tat that you realise is completely unnecessary but entirely expected. You can’t help but look forward to the loving gestures, a romantic meal, exchanging of cards filled with cheesy words and spending quality time together to keep the spark alive.
Now I’m a bit of a funny one when it comes to love, as a young lady I used to day dream of a knight in shining armour sweeping me off of my feet and riding off into the sunset together to live happily ever after. Yet now at the age of 27, and as a single mother of two, my heart is cold and my life solitary and I’m in danger of becoming a spinster with several hundred cats as I creep into my old age. I’ve sadly come to realise that love isn’t what I thought it was, and lightening can strike many more times than twice. The bastard. I’m scared of letting any man get close to me again for fear that the very last shred of my heart will one day be destroyed and render me an emotionless drone for all of eternity. I want to be in love again and feel safe, happy and content in a relationship, but I’ve been so badly burnt in the past that it’s become a black cloud hanging over my future, and so I slam down the steel shutters instead and leave my heart in the deepest darkest corner that I can find. I feel sick at the thought of love, I want it but I know how devastating it can be, like a hot triple chocolate pudding with custard, cream and ice cream, it’s tastes so good but is so bad for me at the same time.
So I guess I float around in limbo, cooing over the hearts, flowers and balloons twinkling in the shop windows and hoping that one day I can rejoin the world in celebrating this beautiful day. I see couples in love and my chest aches to feel like them inside, it makes me want to smile through my tears but I just can’t take that step, and I find myself distancing those closest to me in order to keep myself out of the danger zone. If you don’t give your heart away then it can never be lost. Valentine’s Day is a rather poignant landmark in my calendar, a reminder that life goes on and love does still exist in the world, and for everybody who celebrates it I feel so happy and in awe. To see couples holding hands, restaurants filled with candles and champagne, men shuffling and tutting over bouquets of roses and manoeuvring giant sized cards is simply endearing. Facebook statuses of surprise engagements and grand gestures fill my timeline and make me smile. And somewhere deep inside I know that I will learn to love, trust and surrender my heart again, it’s just taking a hell of a lot longer to heal than I expected.
And for everybody celebrating this adorable occasion with their loved one please take away just one thing from this if nothing else, and that’s the realisation of what you have, the key to anothers heart. Please treat it with respect, patience and kindness, protect, cherish and love it endlessly and realise what you have in your relationship. We are all too often blinded by the chaos and stress of everyday life to actually acknowledge the blessings that we have, the sacrifices others have made for us and the support and love available. Show your beau how much you love them every single day, be grateful to wake up besides them, to hold them in your arms and to share this beautiful journey of life with them. Love is a precious and powerful thing and should always be treated with the respect that it deserves. And as much as Valentine’s Day is an annual event, please remember that love can last a lifetime so long as you give it your time, care and attention. I hope you all have a wonderful day with your loved ones, and perhaps I shall join you next year!
Here I’ve gathered some ideas together on what you can do to make this Valentine’s Day the best ever! If you try them out please let me know.