For the longest time, we have associated beautiful lingerie with special occasions, keeping it as something that is to be tucked away in a drawer until someone else is with us to appreciate it. But here’s a little secret that we’re finally starting to whisper, if not shout about, the most important person to dress for is the one looking back at you in the mirror!
If you’ve been feeling a little less than enough lately, or if your inner critic has been annoyingly louder than usual, then it’s time for a radical act of kindness. Let’s stop waiting for a goal body weight or perfect moment in order to feel worthy of luxury and instead seize the day. Today is entirely what you make it.
The Power Of A Secret Glow
When my favourite song plays on shuffle, I drop everything and play my air guitar, when my favourite person texts me I smile from ear to ear, and when I come home to my dogs wagging tails and smiley faces I can’t help but feel lighter than air, no matter how long my day has been. There is something transformative about wearing a vibrant, silky, laced or sassy set of lingerie beneath your everyday clothing that puts such a spring in my step.
When we treat ourselves to colourful lingerie, we intentionally set an upbeat and energetic mood for the day ahead. A little sprinkling of magic, fun and even mischief accompanies us wherever we go, as colour therapy acts as a psychological pick-me-up, instantly shifting our energy from dull and hidden to vibrant and present.
Breaking The Worthiness Myth
Many of us have a habit of automatically punishing our bodies with boring, utilitarian underwear because we don’t feel that we’ve earned the right to rocking pretty stuff yet. We tell ourselves that we’ll buy the silk set after we lose the weight or after we tone up after having children. But after has no expiry, and suddenly years, if not decades pass and we waste the chance to love ourselves by forever feeling unworthy.
So let’s flip the script. Let’s recognise that loving ourself isn’t a reward for reaching a destination, it’s actually the fuel that gets us through the journey. Choosing to wear something that honours our curves and nurtures femininity right now is a way of recognising that we are worthy of love today, exactly as we are.
We don’t need to replace our entire wardrobes overnight, although the thought of it seems chaotically fun. Nurturing our inner femininity is in fact all about small, intentional choices that we can make each day. Why not start with swapping nude or black garments for a soft sage green for groundedness, or a bold fuchsia for a burst of power.
We can choose textures that feel kind against our skin rather than stiff and restrictive. Think soft lace, breathable silk and stretchy mesh which can be a tactile reminder to be gentle with ourselves and enjoy the clothes that we wear. The next time that you catch your reflection in the mirror when wearing a colourful set of lingerie or clothes, instead of instantly pointing out a flaw, look at the colour against your skin and notice how it glows instead. Notice how the pop of colour makes you feel, and thank yourself for being kind enough to choose it.
Nurturing our femininity isn’t about being perfect, dainty or a stepford wife. It’s about tapping into our soft power and recognising that our body is our home and not a project to be fixed and corrected. When we put on colourful lingerie and clothing, let it be a reminder that we are enough, we are vibrant, we are bright, wonderful and absolutely worthy of the very best things in life. Now get out there and glow girl!
